Get In The Photo. Your Children Don't Care How You Look.

I have almost no photographs of myself with my own children.

It's a strange thing to admit, for someone whose whole life is photography. I have thousands of images of other people's families — but when I go looking for pictures of me with mine, there's almost nothing. I was always the one behind the camera. Always the one saying "one more" to everyone else, never stepping in front to be part of it myself.

My children have told me this makes them sad. And they're right to feel that way. One day, a photograph of me — however I looked that day, whatever I was wearing, whether my hair was done — will be the only version of me they have left to hold onto.

I understand this from the other direction too. My own grandmother, and her mother before her, died before I had the chance to know them properly. What I have of them is a handful of old photographs my parents kept — creased, faded, some barely in focus. I am endlessly grateful those photographs exist at all. They're not just images. They're the only proof I have that these women were real, that I come from somewhere, that a whole life happened before mine did.

This is why, on almost every family session I photograph, I try to talk someone into the frame who doesn't want to be there.

It's nearly always a woman. A mother, a grandmother. "Not today," she'll say. "I look tired." "I haven't done my hair." "Just get the kids — I'll be in the next one." I understand this instinct completely — I've felt it myself, plenty of times, on the other side of my own camera. There's something deeply uncomfortable about being looked at when you don't feel your best.

But here's what I've learned, watching hundreds of families over eighteen years: the children don't see any of that. They don't notice the wrinkles you're worried about, or the concealer you didn't have time to apply, or the ten pounds you wish weren't there. None of it registers to them. What they see is their mother. Their grandmother. The person whose face they love more than any other face in the world, exactly as she is.

So I keep asking. Gently, but I keep asking. And almost every time, when someone finally steps in — reluctantly, still a little unsure — something shifts in the room. I've watched a grandmother go from arms crossed at the edge of the garden to laughing in the middle of a pile of grandchildren within a few minutes. I've watched mothers who spent the whole session directing everyone else finally sit down and let themselves be photographed too, and cry a little when they saw the images afterwards.

That photograph — the one that almost didn't happen — is very often the one a family tells me they love most.

If you're a mother, a grandmother, the one who always takes the pictures and never appears in them: I'd love to help change that, even just once. Not a perfectly posed, everyone-looking-at-the-camera kind of photograph, necessarily — just a real one, of your family, with you actually in it. Your children won't remember how you looked that day. They'll just be grateful you were there.

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If this is the year you finally get in the photo — whether it's a full family session, or just you and your children, or three generations together — I'd love to talk it through. You can see how my sessions work and what's included here →

What to Expect from a Newborn Session in Bromley

If you've never had a newborn session before, it's completely normal to wonder what actually happens. Here's an honest account of what a session with me looks like — from the moment I arrive at your door to the sneak peek you'll receive that evening.

When to book

Most families book during their second trimester, and we hold a flexible date around five to ten days after your due date. That window — the first one to six weeks — is when babies sleep most deeply and curl most naturally. Earlier is gentler, but every baby finds their own timing. I've photographed many babies up to six weeks old, and the images are always beautiful.

The morning of your session

You don't need to prepare much. A room with a window — south or east-facing is ideal, but any daylight will do. A slightly warmer room than usual, because your baby will be undressed for some of the session. A feed about thirty minutes before I arrive, if the rhythm allows.

That's genuinely it.

I arrive quietly, usually with everything loaded into two bags. I find the right corner of the room, set up while you settle the baby, and we begin when your baby is ready — not when the clock says so.

What I bring

Everything. After eighteen years of newborn sessions across Bromley and South East London, my entire studio comes with me.

Organic wraps in cream, oatmeal, sand, and soft grey. Knitted gowns, bonnets, and rompers. Delicate headbands. Wooden bowls, baskets, and neutral backdrops. A heated beanbag for posing. Studio-quality lighting for darker days. Warm hands and hand sanitiser.

You don't need to buy props, outfits, or anything at all for your baby. If there's something meaningful you'd like to include — a blanket from a grandmother, a tiny outfit that belonged to an older sibling — bring it. Those pieces often become the most treasured images of the day.

The session itself

A newborn session usually takes two to three hours. We work entirely at your baby's pace. If they need to feed, we feed. If they need a long settle, we wait. If a pose isn't working, we move on. There's no timeline and no pressure.

Most of the session is quiet. You're welcome to stay close, make tea, or rest in another room — whichever feels right. Parents are never far from the baby. Every pose that looks unsupported in the final image is fully supported during the session, often by a parent's hand just outside the frame.

Toward the end, I photograph the family together — you holding your baby, siblings if they're there, both parents in the frame. These are often the images families return to most.

After the session

That same evening, or the next morning, I'll send a sneak peek — one or two of my favourite images while the feeling of the day is still fresh.

Your full private gallery arrives within one week. It includes colour and black and white edits, a print release for personal use, and a password-protected link you can share with family.

A note on safety

I am trained in newborn safety and fully insured. Every session I photograph in Bromley and across South East London is treated with the same care I gave my own five children in those early weeks. Your baby is never not held.

Thinking about booking a newborn session in Bromley or South East London? I'd love to hear from you. You can see full pricing and collections on my investment page, or simply get in touch.